I'm not sure if this is a post that belongs on this subreddit specifically, if there is a better place to post this I will, but this is the first sub I thought of when I wondered what to do in this situation.
Before I begin, I should mention that during my freshman year of high school I was depressed myself. I can say that the pain I felt during those times I don't wish upon anyone. Thankfully, it appeared to be that a mere hormonal imbalance was the cause, and those feelings faded away after my freshman school year ended.
As the title indicates I am seeking advice to help a friend in need. This person, who I'll call M, is just such a positive person. She has a soft voice, and is really positive, funny, and uplifting. She has a sort of aura that people are drawn to.
For context, we are in the same foods class. We sit at the same table, and work in neighboring kitchens, so most of our communication is idle chatter. So while we may consider us friends, we don't know each other that well.
Today in foods she was no different, M was nice and friendly as always. However when I was waiting for my ride home after school at a side exit, she came to the same exit wait for her ride. M asked who I was waiting for, and I responded saying that my mom was picking me up. M said "Yeah, waiting on my mom too" and I noticed a crack in her voice. I look at her eyes and notice that she's on the verge of tears.
She responded saying that she doesn't want to live anymore, and then expresses the rest of her feelings and negative emotions. It's clear to me that she must have felt this way for a long time to have told someone she barely knows something so personal. I never told anyone how I felt when I was in her shoes. I respond by saying that even though I don't like expressing my emotions, I can say that everything she just said I had felt before.
I tell M that being able to hide sadness behind a smile is a sort of strength that I could never have. M then says how she tries to fake being happy, and even though she feels happy sometimes, she's getting tired of faking it.
M tells me that she tried to tell her mother about her feelings, but her mother said that she was doing it for attention. When I heard this, I was heartbroken.
At that moment, her mother's car approached, and she quickly said "That's her, I gotta go." Before she left I told her that if she wanted to talk about anything she could talk to me, and that I don't like seeing her like this. After a quick "Thank you" she got in her mother's car and I waved goodbye.
Now I'm in a position where I'm not sure what to do. I want to make sure she's okay, but I don't want to push the topic and make her feel uncomfortable, especially in front of others. Should I have tried to hug her, or would that have been too forward? How do I show her I(as well as others) care about her? I have no idea what to do. Above all else though, I want to make sure she's okay.
I'm not sure if this is a post that belongs on this subreddit specifically, if there is a better place to post this I will, but this is the first sub I thought of when I wondered what to do in this situation.Before I begin, I should mention that during my freshman year of high school I was depressed myself. I can say that the pain I felt during those times I don't wish upon anyone. Thankfully, it appeared to be that a mere hormonal imbalance was the cause, and those feelings faded away after my freshman school year ended.As the title indicates I am seeking advice to help a friend in need. This person, who I'll call M, is just such a positive person. She has a soft voice, and is really positive, funny, and uplifting. She has a sort of aura that people are drawn to.For context, we are in the same foods class. We sit at the same table, and work in neighboring kitchens, so most of our communication is idle chatter. So while we may consider us friends, we don't know each other that well.Today in foods she was no different, M was nice and friendly as always. However when I was waiting for my ride home after school at a side exit, she came to the same exit wait for her ride. M asked who I was waiting for, and I responded saying that my mom was picking me up. M said "Yeah, waiting on my mom too" and I noticed a crack in her voice. I look at her eyes and notice that she's on the verge of tears.She responded saying that she doesn't want to live anymore, and then expresses the rest of her feelings and negative emotions. It's clear to me that she must have felt this way for a long time to have told someone she barely knows something so personal. I never told anyone how I felt when I was in her shoes. I respond by saying that even though I don't like expressing my emotions, I can say that everything she just said I had felt before.I tell M that being able to hide sadness behind a smile is a sort of strength that I could never have. M then says how she tries to fake being happy, and even though she feels happy sometimes, she's getting tired of faking it.M tells me that she tried to tell her mother about her feelings, but her mother said that she was doing it for attention. When I heard this, I was heartbroken.At that moment, her mother's car approached, and she quickly said "That's her, I gotta go." Before she left I told her that if she wanted to talk about anything she could talk to me, and that I don't like seeing her like this. After a quick "Thank you" she got in her mother's car and I waved goodbye.Now I'm in a position where I'm not sure what to do. I want to make sure she's okay, but I don't want to push the topic and make her feel uncomfortable, especially in front of others. Should I have tried to hug her, or would that have been too forward? How do I show her I(as well as others) care about her? I have no idea what to do. Above all else though, I want to make sure she's okay. http://ift.tt/eA8V8J http://ift.tt/2ofqAIB
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