Hello everyone, I have a bit of a predicament going on at the moment. My boyfriend (18M) and I (18F) have been together for nearly 3 years and just recently decided to take the next step and have sex. Previously, we've done lots of other sexual stuff (handjobs, blowjobs, etc). We had sex for the first time on Valentine's day and although neither of us came, it was a big bonding moment for us. However, since then I've had a few conversations with him about arousal and what he feels when he is aroused. I explained to him that when I am turned on, there is both a physical and mental response. I mentally want to have sex but my body also has almost like a biological pressure to have sex as well, like an ache to be touched. When asked what he feels when turned on he explained that even when erect, his penis and surrounding area has no different feel to it and all of his arousal is mental. Another thing that is sort of important to the story is that he has never masturbated. And now I finally understand why. When he gets an erection, he never has the physical reaction to go along with it so he does not feel the need to masturbate.
So, I have sort of a conundrum. When we had sex for the first time on Valentine's day, we went on for over and hour but he never finished. I asked him about it and he said that he gets much more from the bond than the sensation. After more prodding, he explained that he never gets much sensation at all during sex, blowjobs, handjobs, or anything. His dick just is not sensitive at all. In the three years we've been together, I have never once made him cum. I worry that there may be some kind of hormonal imbalance causing this but he doesn't seem to think it is an issue. I've read that low testosterone can cause low sensitivity in the penis and difficulty ejaculating but I never expected this from my teenage boyfriend. While he doesn't seem to have much of a problem with not getting pleasure from sexual activity, it makes me feel almost guilty I guess? Because he constantly makes me feel good but I can never make him feel good, no matter what I do.
Has anyone else ever experienced this? If so, do you have any advice for me or us on what to do about the issue?
Hello everyone, I have a bit of a predicament going on at the moment. My boyfriend (18M) and I (18F) have been together for nearly 3 years and just recently decided to take the next step and have sex. Previously, we've done lots of other sexual stuff (handjobs, blowjobs, etc). We had sex for the first time on Valentine's day and although neither of us came, it was a big bonding moment for us. However, since then I've had a few conversations with him about arousal and what he feels when he is aroused. I explained to him that when I am turned on, there is both a physical and mental response. I mentally want to have sex but my body also has almost like a biological pressure to have sex as well, like an ache to be touched. When asked what he feels when turned on he explained that even when erect, his penis and surrounding area has no different feel to it and all of his arousal is mental. Another thing that is sort of important to the story is that he has never masturbated. And now I finally understand why. When he gets an erection, he never has the physical reaction to go along with it so he does not feel the need to masturbate.So, I have sort of a conundrum. When we had sex for the first time on Valentine's day, we went on for over and hour but he never finished. I asked him about it and he said that he gets much more from the bond than the sensation. After more prodding, he explained that he never gets much sensation at all during sex, blowjobs, handjobs, or anything. His dick just is not sensitive at all. In the three years we've been together, I have never once made him cum. I worry that there may be some kind of hormonal imbalance causing this but he doesn't seem to think it is an issue. I've read that low testosterone can cause low sensitivity in the penis and difficulty ejaculating but I never expected this from my teenage boyfriend. While he doesn't seem to have much of a problem with not getting pleasure from sexual activity, it makes me feel almost guilty I guess? Because he constantly makes me feel good but I can never make him feel good, no matter what I do.Has anyone else ever experienced this? If so, do you have any advice for me or us on what to do about the issue? https://ift.tt/eA8V8J https://ift.tt/2JqJKoP
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