This might be a long post but I just discovered PMDD and I'm curious if I have it so I just have a lot of questions. Going to follow up with an OBGYN as soon as I can to get a real medical opinion, so I'm not asking for medical advice here.
Firstly, the main reason I think I have PMDD is because I experience something often referred to as "splitting" in the BPD community. (I've been diagnosed BPD in high school but I do not think it's accurate). Basically, when you split, it's your brain putting up a defense mechanism and telling you "you don't love your partner anymore." Except, for me it's not a defense mechanism. It happens like clockwork every time I get my period (around the last day of my period) and then lasts ~2 weeks. It's so bad that I even tried skipping my periods with birth control because I cannot handle feeling like I suddenly don't love my SO anymore even though, logically, I know I love him so much. I know that it is strongly related to my hormones because before I was on birth control it happened every month when I got my period, and now it happens every 12 weeks because I'm on a 12 week birth control cycle.
I'm just curious if anyone else experiences this. It's like....you suddenly don't feel love anymore. You know it's there, but your brain is just telling you, "Nope! All gone!"
All I do when this happens is confide in my partner that it's happening and wait for everything to go back to normal again in 2 weeks. It's all I can do, really.
Secondly, for those of you who have experienced this, has skipping your period by use of birth control ever made it somehow worse for you? I skipped my period 5 weeks ago for the first time because I was going through a change of routine and could not handle the "splitting" on top of it. My plan was to just get my period at the end of this 12 week cycle and resume as normal, but for the last 2 weeks I've been having the same "splitting" as if I'm on my period. So I'm thinking I'll just take the low estrogen dose pills this week from my last pack to get the period over with because it's already been 2 weeks with no sign of slowing down.
The thing is, I don't know the science behind any of this. Is it possible that because I skipped my period, there is somehow some sort of hormonal imbalance because my body didn't get the "release" of a period that it normally gets?
Sorry for the long post, I am just so overwhelmed and tired of suddenly feeling like I don't love my boyfriend anymore, despite loving him with my entire heart and soul just the day before. It's terrifying to feel like my relationship is over every 3 months and then have to pick up the pieces of my emotions every time my brain returns to normal. I'm terrified that my hormonal brain is going to convince me to do something I regret, and even told my SO that if I ever try to break up with him that we need to have a 2 week waiting period to make sure I'm actually stable/clear in my wishes because my brain is so unpredictable in these kinds of times.
If anyone has anything to say about any of this, please let me know. I will greatly appreciate any input at all.
This might be a long post but I just discovered PMDD and I'm curious if I have it so I just have a lot of questions. Going to follow up with an OBGYN as soon as I can to get a real medical opinion, so I'm not asking for medical advice here.Firstly, the main reason I think I have PMDD is because I experience something often referred to as "splitting" in the BPD community. (I've been diagnosed BPD in high school but I do not think it's accurate). Basically, when you split, it's your brain putting up a defense mechanism and telling you "you don't love your partner anymore." Except, for me it's not a defense mechanism. It happens like clockwork every time I get my period (around the last day of my period) and then lasts ~2 weeks. It's so bad that I even tried skipping my periods with birth control because I cannot handle feeling like I suddenly don't love my SO anymore even though, logically, I know I love him so much. I know that it is strongly related to my hormones because before I was on birth control it happened every month when I got my period, and now it happens every 12 weeks because I'm on a 12 week birth control cycle.I'm just curious if anyone else experiences this. It's like....you suddenly don't feel love anymore. You know it's there, but your brain is just telling you, "Nope! All gone!"All I do when this happens is confide in my partner that it's happening and wait for everything to go back to normal again in 2 weeks. It's all I can do, really.Secondly, for those of you who have experienced this, has skipping your period by use of birth control ever made it somehow worse for you? I skipped my period 5 weeks ago for the first time because I was going through a change of routine and could not handle the "splitting" on top of it. My plan was to just get my period at the end of this 12 week cycle and resume as normal, but for the last 2 weeks I've been having the same "splitting" as if I'm on my period. So I'm thinking I'll just take the low estrogen dose pills this week from my last pack to get the period over with because it's already been 2 weeks with no sign of slowing down.The thing is, I don't know the science behind any of this. Is it possible that because I skipped my period, there is somehow some sort of hormonal imbalance because my body didn't get the "release" of a period that it normally gets?Sorry for the long post, I am just so overwhelmed and tired of suddenly feeling like I don't love my boyfriend anymore, despite loving him with my entire heart and soul just the day before. It's terrifying to feel like my relationship is over every 3 months and then have to pick up the pieces of my emotions every time my brain returns to normal. I'm terrified that my hormonal brain is going to convince me to do something I regret, and even told my SO that if I ever try to break up with him that we need to have a 2 week waiting period to make sure I'm actually stable/clear in my wishes because my brain is so unpredictable in these kinds of times.If anyone has anything to say about any of this, please let me know. I will greatly appreciate any input at all. https://ift.tt/eA8V8J https://ift.tt/3lsdgwp
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