Fiancé is 32 weeks pregnant. We’ve been together 4 years. Very intimate relationship.
During the whole pregnancy we had sex maybe 5 times. 1 time in the last 3 months or so.
I understand the hormonal imbalances, there’s another human being in her, she probably feels gross, etc. BUT even when I try to kiss her she always comes up with an excuse not to, “I have to go pee” seems to be the most popular one. I got mad once and said you can’t even kiss me? I’ve asked her a couple times if we could compromise, that sex isn’t everything, that it’s important we try and keep some level of intimacy going along. (I used to be the only one that did anything to her oral wise, I never got anything in return.) so no, I’m not the selfish one in that aspect. She hasn’t once touched it or tried to do anything though.
It’s had me pretty depressed the whole time. I’ve tried to keep busy with going to the gym, working more, it got to the point one time where she thought i was cheating on her at the gym. Even though I’ve been the one trying to be intimate with her and do things for her. Honestly I did it hoping she’d find me more attractive, but then it turned into I was doing it for myself cause I enjoyed it and it kept my mind of things. (I’m not unhealthy) — 6’0 180 lbs. Also bought us a new house to live in that has more room.
I clean house all the time, make food, laundry, etc. I don’t mind doing these things though, it’s part of being in a relationship and showing you care for someone, plus I’ve always liked a clean house. Just feels like we’re roommates at the moment though.
I’ll still keep doing everything she asks of me though. Is this where “quit whining, and be a man” comes into play? Is this what marriage is like? Lol. I need to know this is completely normal for others too. Or if....red flag. I love her.
Edit* I need to add, she hasnt eaten healthy during pregnancy at all—lots of high sugars, sodas, junk food, little water, no veggies. I try to encourage her to eat healthier, at least for the baby, she just gets mad at me and tells me to shut up. So I feel like she’s being a little selfish?
Fiancé is 32 weeks pregnant. We’ve been together 4 years. Very intimate relationship.During the whole pregnancy we had sex maybe 5 times. 1 time in the last 3 months or so.I understand the hormonal imbalances, there’s another human being in her, she probably feels gross, etc. BUT even when I try to kiss her she always comes up with an excuse not to, “I have to go pee” seems to be the most popular one. I got mad once and said you can’t even kiss me? I’ve asked her a couple times if we could compromise, that sex isn’t everything, that it’s important we try and keep some level of intimacy going along. (I used to be the only one that did anything to her oral wise, I never got anything in return.) so no, I’m not the selfish one in that aspect. She hasn’t once touched it or tried to do anything though.It’s had me pretty depressed the whole time. I’ve tried to keep busy with going to the gym, working more, it got to the point one time where she thought i was cheating on her at the gym. Even though I’ve been the one trying to be intimate with her and do things for her. Honestly I did it hoping she’d find me more attractive, but then it turned into I was doing it for myself cause I enjoyed it and it kept my mind of things. (I’m not unhealthy) — 6’0 180 lbs. Also bought us a new house to live in that has more room.I clean house all the time, make food, laundry, etc. I don’t mind doing these things though, it’s part of being in a relationship and showing you care for someone, plus I’ve always liked a clean house. Just feels like we’re roommates at the moment though.I’ll still keep doing everything she asks of me though. Is this where “quit whining, and be a man” comes into play? Is this what marriage is like? Lol. I need to know this is completely normal for others too. Or if....red flag. I love her.Edit* I need to add, she hasnt eaten healthy during pregnancy at all—lots of high sugars, sodas, junk food, little water, no veggies. I try to encourage her to eat healthier, at least for the baby, she just gets mad at me and tells me to shut up. So I feel like she’s being a little selfish? https://ift.tt/eA8V8J https://ift.tt/3pEgbUj
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