My partner and I have been together almost 10 years. Our relationship dynamic is unique. We have a D/s relationship, but not only in sexual settings. It could border on general CGL, but zero age play during sex. I wouldn't say we're poly, but we are both free to hook up with others if we want to, as long as we let each other know. We both have no interest in a relationship of any sort with anyone else.
For the past 4 years my sex drive was nearly non-existent, even though it used to be extremely high. Theirs has always been high. This was hard for them, affected their confidence, etc. We only had sex maybe once a month. I recently had my testosterone dose increased (I'm trans, FTM) and suddenly my sex drive is back. Turns out it was caused by a hormone imbalance.
We now can't keep our hands off of each other. It's so nice to have this back, but now I'm struggling to be rough with them. I used to be able to, but I keep finding myself worried that I'll legitimately hurt them. It's not that I'm not into it, either. I definitely am. I just sort of freeze up. I'm already pretty "controlling" during sex, (telling them what to do, moving them around however I want, orgasm denial/control, etc) but they want me to be more physically rough.
We talked about this, and when I said "I'm just worried I'll accidentally hurt you" they said, "I want you to hurt me".
Do any of you have any tips? Maybe general rough sex tips? Something with a low risk for serious injury that I would feel more comfortable with?
My partner and I have been together almost 10 years. Our relationship dynamic is unique. We have a D/s relationship, but not only in sexual settings. It could border on general CGL, but zero age play during sex. I wouldn't say we're poly, but we are both free to hook up with others if we want to, as long as we let each other know. We both have no interest in a relationship of any sort with anyone else.For the past 4 years my sex drive was nearly non-existent, even though it used to be extremely high. Theirs has always been high. This was hard for them, affected their confidence, etc. We only had sex maybe once a month. I recently had my testosterone dose increased (I'm trans, FTM) and suddenly my sex drive is back. Turns out it was caused by a hormone imbalance.We now can't keep our hands off of each other. It's so nice to have this back, but now I'm struggling to be rough with them. I used to be able to, but I keep finding myself worried that I'll legitimately hurt them. It's not that I'm not into it, either. I definitely am. I just sort of freeze up. I'm already pretty "controlling" during sex, (telling them what to do, moving them around however I want, orgasm denial/control, etc) but they want me to be more physically rough.We talked about this, and when I said "I'm just worried I'll accidentally hurt you" they said, "I want you to hurt me".Do any of you have any tips? Maybe general rough sex tips? Something with a low risk for serious injury that I would feel more comfortable with? https://ift.tt/eA8V8J https://ift.tt/3sHveye
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