I don't want to be a man, but I hate being a woman. How do I cope with this?

Like the title says, I (33F) really hate being a woman. I don't think I have any gender identity issues; it's about the science of the way women's bodies work, and the way society views us.

Women are weaker, slower to grow muscle, faster to grow fat (as a general rule; obviously there are exceptions). Hormones mess with everything in a woman's body. I can't tell you the number of studies I've read about things that mention "such and such is worse/this medication is not as effective for women because of their hormones." Maybe men just don't talk about it, but it seems like there are a lot more hormonal imbalance issues with women, or health problems caused by hormones.

Women are expected to act/dress/be a certain way in our society. They are less likely to be believed by doctors (especially female doctors; how messed up is that?!) about issues they are having. They are less likely to be assumed to be competent. More likely to be called names for standing up for themselves, or be seen as aggressive when they're simply holding to their boundaries. Boundaries are more likely to be ignored.

I don't want to wear makeup. I don't want to wear tight jeans. I don't want to wear fancy clothes and be fashionable. I just want to wear what's comfortable. I don't want to spend hours tweezing and shaping my eyebrows. Of course if I don't do any of those things, I either "must be a lesbian" or I'm seen as lazy, or a slob, or just plain unattractive. Just because I don't want to wear clothes that make people stare at me doesn't mean I don't take care of myself.

I don't know what to do. I can't not be a woman, I am one and that's that. I'm just so tired. Tired of having periods, tired of being mistaken for a man because I don't want to show off my boobs or butt with the way I dress. Tired of feeling like I'm never going to find a partner because I don't want to dress or act a certain way that society thinks I should be. Tired of being fucking self-conscious all the time because being a woman is fucking stupid.

Help. I don't know what to do.

Like the title says, I (33F) really hate being a woman. I don't think I have any gender identity issues; it's about the science of the way women's bodies work, and the way society views us.Women are weaker, slower to grow muscle, faster to grow fat (as a general rule; obviously there are exceptions). Hormones mess with everything in a woman's body. I can't tell you the number of studies I've read about things that mention "such and such is worse/this medication is not as effective for women because of their hormones." Maybe men just don't talk about it, but it seems like there are a lot more hormonal imbalance issues with women, or health problems caused by hormones.Women are expected to act/dress/be a certain way in our society. They are less likely to be believed by doctors (especially female doctors; how messed up is that?!) about issues they are having. They are less likely to be assumed to be competent. More likely to be called names for standing up for themselves, or be seen as aggressive when they're simply holding to their boundaries. Boundaries are more likely to be ignored.I don't want to wear makeup. I don't want to wear tight jeans. I don't want to wear fancy clothes and be fashionable. I just want to wear what's comfortable. I don't want to spend hours tweezing and shaping my eyebrows. Of course if I don't do any of those things, I either "must be a lesbian" or I'm seen as lazy, or a slob, or just plain unattractive. Just because I don't want to wear clothes that make people stare at me doesn't mean I don't take care of myself.I don't know what to do. I can't not be a woman, I am one and that's that. I'm just so tired. Tired of having periods, tired of being mistaken for a man because I don't want to show off my boobs or butt with the way I dress. Tired of feeling like I'm never going to find a partner because I don't want to dress or act a certain way that society thinks I should be. Tired of being fucking self-conscious all the time because being a woman is fucking stupid.Help. I don't know what to do. https://ift.tt/eA8V8J https://ift.tt/31f9e5e

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