I (15f) do not believe in love. I believe that it is a chemical imbalance of hormones that can rebalance over time, so it should never be trusted. I believe in platonic love and family love, just not the romantic kind. I could honestly go on forever about this.
I recently figured out I am aromantic asexual (which means I am not romantically or sexually attracted to anyone) and due to a whole bunch of stuff I went through, I decided to remain single forever. I do not force anyone to share these beliefs- hell I've even helped some people with their love drama.
On to the issue at hand.
My friend (15f)- let's call her A- is a die-hard romantic. She dreams about meeting 'the one' and gushes over the life she will have once she's married. One day, completely out of the blue, she says "Hey [OP], when do you think you're gonna get married?"
I was quite hurt by this question as she knows I'm aro ace. Instead of lashing out, I laughed and said something along the lines of. "Never! I can't imagine getting married to someone and having kids. Besides, I am aro ace."
"Never? You're NEVER getting married? Never having kids?!"
"I'm a millennial! Where am I gonna find the cash to get married with all the student loans and avocado toast?"
A then starts acting like I had declared I was starting a cult to worship Satan. "But what about your cousins future children?? They won't have anyone to hang out with! Your BLOODLINE will END (I have no siblings)!" And she basically starts dramatically painting a picture of me living alone, with only books and animals to keep me company- which actually doesn't sound too bad.
I'm getting annoyed with the conversation at this point and I say that my cousin's future kids will have their own friends and I have at least 50 cousins by blood so my bloodline ain't dying out anytime soon. I snapped and said I was not interested in a married lifestyle and that she should drop the topic.
A then gets really quiet and leaves. She starts ghosting me and spreading lies about how I am shaming her dream lifestyle. My close friends have stuck by me. A few people have turned against me and others have said I should not have been so harsh knowing that A is sensitive.
I wanted an unbiased opinion. So, reddit, AITAH?
I (15f) do not believe in love. I believe that it is a chemical imbalance of hormones that can rebalance over time, so it should never be trusted. I believe in platonic love and family love, just not the romantic kind. I could honestly go on forever about this.I recently figured out I am aromantic asexual (which means I am not romantically or sexually attracted to anyone) and due to a whole bunch of stuff I went through, I decided to remain single forever. I do not force anyone to share these beliefs- hell I've even helped some people with their love drama.On to the issue at hand.My friend (15f)- let's call her A- is a die-hard romantic. She dreams about meeting 'the one' and gushes over the life she will have once she's married. One day, completely out of the blue, she says "Hey [OP], when do you think you're gonna get married?"I was quite hurt by this question as she knows I'm aro ace. Instead of lashing out, I laughed and said something along the lines of. "Never! I can't imagine getting married to someone and having kids. Besides, I am aro ace.""Never? You're NEVER getting married? Never having kids?!""I'm a millennial! Where am I gonna find the cash to get married with all the student loans and avocado toast?"A then starts acting like I had declared I was starting a cult to worship Satan. "But what about your cousins future children?? They won't have anyone to hang out with! Your BLOODLINE will END (I have no siblings)!" And she basically starts dramatically painting a picture of me living alone, with only books and animals to keep me company- which actually doesn't sound too bad.I'm getting annoyed with the conversation at this point and I say that my cousin's future kids will have their own friends and I have at least 50 cousins by blood so my bloodline ain't dying out anytime soon. I snapped and said I was not interested in a married lifestyle and that she should drop the topic.A then gets really quiet and leaves. She starts ghosting me and spreading lies about how I am shaming her dream lifestyle. My close friends have stuck by me. A few people have turned against me and others have said I should not have been so harsh knowing that A is sensitive.I wanted an unbiased opinion. So, reddit, AITAH? https://ift.tt/SiofR21 https://ift.tt/iKgCjBh
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