Anyone have cis heterosexual friends that you have made *after * detransition, that know you used to be Trans but are uncomfortable with discussion about that part of your life? Like they accept you but also...please don't talk about your feelings about it cause it makes everyone uncomfortable?
To be clear, it's not something I'm wanting to bring up often or anything. I just get the feeling that that part of my past it's like, my friends fully accept but also ever want to hear anything about again. Which is hard for me because in my perception it's so obvious I took T and that I'm "different"
I had one friend who, when I mentioned one thing about when I was living as a Trans guy, she was like "I just want to know you now, I don't need to know anything about before" which is....mixed feelings for me. Because on the one had I get it and agree, but on the other hand, she would never say that to someone else, if they didn't have a past that she felt maybe somewhat ashamed of. Like its not like I'm in witness protection and my past is sealed off from my present, lol.
And I have a friend now where he knows, we don't ever talk about it but in a deep heartfelt convo I mentioned something and you could tell he just wanted to avoid that whole thing. Like in a convo where feelings r being discussed about things. But my past specifically is too taboo or something.
Anyway....just been thinking about that and wondering if other relate. I guess I'm not sure if I should just never mention anything again, to anyone? Never disclose I'm detrans, just say I have some other hormonal imbalance, vocal chord damage ?
It's a big difference from when you come out as trans, and everyone is kissing your ass for being so brave. Now Now I detransitioned, my whole life is too taboo to talk about.
Anyone have cis heterosexual friends that you have made *after * detransition, that know you used to be Trans but are uncomfortable with discussion about that part of your life? Like they accept you but also...please don't talk about your feelings about it cause it makes everyone uncomfortable?To be clear, it's not something I'm wanting to bring up often or anything. I just get the feeling that that part of my past it's like, my friends fully accept but also ever want to hear anything about again. Which is hard for me because in my perception it's so obvious I took T and that I'm "different"I had one friend who, when I mentioned one thing about when I was living as a Trans guy, she was like "I just want to know you now, I don't need to know anything about before" which is....mixed feelings for me. Because on the one had I get it and agree, but on the other hand, she would never say that to someone else, if they didn't have a past that she felt maybe somewhat ashamed of. Like its not like I'm in witness protection and my past is sealed off from my present, lol.And I have a friend now where he knows, we don't ever talk about it but in a deep heartfelt convo I mentioned something and you could tell he just wanted to avoid that whole thing. Like in a convo where feelings r being discussed about things. But my past specifically is too taboo or something.Anyway....just been thinking about that and wondering if other relate. I guess I'm not sure if I should just never mention anything again, to anyone? Never disclose I'm detrans, just say I have some other hormonal imbalance, vocal chord damage ?It's a big difference from when you come out as trans, and everyone is kissing your ass for being so brave. Now Now I detransitioned, my whole life is too taboo to talk about. https://ift.tt/8lwTHBU https://ift.tt/fHQCA0R
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